Stop what you’re doing this very moment. I want you to close your eyes. Take a deep breath in, and breathe slowly out. Take a few minutes to center yourself and think about a few things.
What is troubling you right now?
What are you unsettled with?
Chances are, when I ask you to sit with yourself quietly for a minute or two, you are thinking something negatively about yourself.
Sadly, negative-self talk is taking over our lives.
We live in an extremely fast-paced, rushed world. We are only one human being, yet we are stretched, molded, and shoved into every single direction possible. And how exactly do we balance it all? It is always an on-going battle within ourselves to manage our time.
You may be a successful CPA for your firm. In addition to handling your work responsibilities, you have kids to feed, a husband to make happy, a BA program to juggle, and volunteer committees to make time for. Oh, and don’t even get started about keeping a clean house or making time for a social life. You try so hard to be Super Woman at everything, yet sometimes you just don’t feel like you succeed. You get discouraged easily when you don’t achieve what you had hoped, and you feel like you are at the end of your rope.
But why do you feel like you have to be the best at everything you do?
Okay, ladies. Time to get real. Are you ready for this intervention?
As a Westernized woman of the 21st century, it drives me insane how busy our lifestyles are. Have you ever had a few hours of free time and felt guilty about spending it on yourself? I know that I personally feel this way all of the time. If I decide to call it an early night, crawl into bed, and Netflix binge on Friends instead of reading my textbook or writing for my blog, I feel guilty. Why the hell am I wasting time watching TV when I could be doing something productive?!
Free time seems to be a sin in America. If you aren’t busy 24/7, you aren’t working hard enough.
I wrote a post last week about the importance of self-care, which is something that I am a huge advocate for. I believe that as individuals, we don’t take enough time to care for ourselves. Especially as a woman, most of us have tendencies to care for everybody else but ourselves. Does that resonate with any of you?
I just want you to know something.
You are, and will always be, enough.
Just the way you are.
You cannot do everything perfectly, no matter how hard you try. There are always going to be people who disagree with you and who may not like you. It’s a choice you must make- to rise above and know your self-worth, or to choose to be defeated and defined by someone else’s opinion of you.
It’s time to get rid of the negative self-talk.
I have found that women even strenghten friendships over negative self-talk, myself guilty of this.
“OMG, I’m getting so fat.”
“Me too! I can’t even fit into my pants anymore!!”
It’s almost like body-shaming ourselves is a way to bond.
How can you be loved by anybody else if you do not love yourself? It’s okay to cut yourself slack from time to time and destroy your concept of imperfection. Create realistic expectations for yourself, and be gentle with your standards. How can you trust in your ability to love others if you don’t even love yourself?
Know that you bring unique gifts to this world. No one else is quite like you. You are one-of-a-kind. Embrace it, live it, and love it.
My challenge for you over the weekend: Each time you find yourself making a negative comment about yourself, write down five things you love about yourself in a journal. You owe it to yourself to treat yourself with dignity and respect. Negative self-talk is nothing short of a bad habit that can be fixed. Train your mind, and you will be surprised by how much your worldview will change with a positive perspective.
Just please, darling, just know that you are enough.
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