Vulnerability is probably one of the scariest thing EVER.

As a blogger, I often feel conflicted over how much to share. Part of me just wants to bear my entire soul and share SO much information with you; I want to share my heart and help protect you all from some of the mistakes that I have made. I want to be a role model. I strive to be REAL.

But also, part of me wants to shield that aspect of myself. I don’t want to let others in; I want you to see me as perfect. I don’t want you to know about my flaws and mistakes. I don’t want to talk about my husband, my family and other things because these topics are very personal to me. Even on my most confident days when I feel empowered to share, connect, and make a difference, I still can’t ignore that little voice in my head whispering, “…..but what would they think?” My thoughts are so consuming and detrimental to my own well-being.

I will admit that I probably will always care about what others think; it’s just a part of who I am. I’m a people pleaser at heart. But…. I can choose to work at accepting this part of myself. And I can commit to being my most vulnerable, truest self, because that’s the essence of human connection.

The beautiful thing is, I’ve found that my vulnerability helps connect me to others. When I first started my job this past year, I was afraid – no, actually, I was terrified – for people to get to know me. I legit hid the fact that this blog was a huge part of who I was for almost the whole year, until my coworker found it, and word started spreading around. I decided to own who I was and stay confident, even though I was obsessing over what others would think about it. I decided to be my true self, even though I was afraid of the consequences. Since then, I’ve found that by sharing my mistakes, my flaws, my imperfections, and my insecurities, I’ve grown real, honest connections….even lifelong friendships with people whom I only met less than a year ago.

Being vulnerable is not always easy, but I respect when people commit to being real.

Ladies, don’t be afraid to be your most honest, vulnerable, true self. Don’t strive to be perfect, strive to be REAL. People will appreciate you more for it. People connect over sharing.

And if they don’t? Well…#byeeeeeee.

As my girl Brené Brown states, “Vulnerability is the birthplace of love, belonging, joy, courage, empathy, and creativity. It is the source of hope, empathy, accountability, and authenticity. If we want greater clarity in our purpose or deeper and more meaningful spiritual lives, vulnerability is the path.”

Do you struggle with being open and vulnerable? I would love to hear your thoughts on this topic.

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