How to Pick Your Bridesmaids

It’s wedding season, lovelies!

I don’t know about you, but I LOVE weddings! I don’t think that there is anything more beautiful than seeing two people in love commit to each other for the rest of their lives. If you’re anything like me, then you’ve been basically planning your wedding your entire life. For women, our wedding day is our ONE chance to be a princess! Therefore, we try everything in our power to make the day go perfectly. Duh. Haven’t you seen our Pinterest boards?

Picking the women who you want by your side to share your special day with is a huge decision! These women will have the honor to witness you make a special commitment for the rest of your life. However, picking bridesmaids can be stressful, when it really shouldn’t be! Sometimes there is a lot of drama and politics that come with it, when you should truly just be focusing on the marriage itself.

So how do you know who to include in your wedding party? Lucky for you, I wrote you a handy guide on how to choose your bridesmaids that will make the task easier for you. Even if you’re not getting married anytime soon, this is still good to know information!

General Rules

The first rule is. . . that there ARE no rules!! This is YOUR wedding, feel free to do whatever makes you happy. This day is all about YOU, after all!

The number of bridesmaids doesn’t matter. No number is too small or too large. If you only feel that there are three important women in your life, there is nothing wrong with having a small wedding party.  Likewise, if you want to have 15 bridesmaids, then all the power to you!

Don’t worry about hurting feelings. Your true friends will understand that you can only have so many bridesmaids and will see you at the wedding anyways! You may feel pressure from people to include them in your wedding party, but remember that this is ultimately your decision.

Who You Should Pick

Pick women who truly support your marriage. These ladies should love you and your husband-to-be unconditionally and want the absolute best for you. You don’t want to be standing on the altar and feel judged or unsure if your friends are happy for you. This is your special day, and you deserve the right to feel comfortable. If you are on the fence about someone to ask as a bridesmaid because you don’t know how true of a friend she is, chances are that she isn’t the best choice.

Pick women who know you better than anyone else. Friends, roommates, sisters, cousins, future-sister-in-laws. These are the ones who have been by your side through thick and thin; the ones that you know you can always call in the middle of the night for anything.

Who You Shouldn’t Pick

Don’t include someone who you haven’t talked to in like 5 years. How awkward are those weddings where the bride has to practically scavenge for bridesmaids. Just because someone was your best friend 10 years ago doesn’t necessarily guarantee them a spot in your wedding. Your bridesmaids should be women that you will keep in contact with during your marriage for support and friendship. You need to be sure that you can still call these women 10 years down the road for marital advice!

Don’t include someone who won’t be around to help you with your wedding planning. If you want to include a friend that lives across the country or someone who just had a baby, then may have their hands full. If you feel like you are a burden to their busy lives, perhaps you should go with someone else for your bridal party.

The bottom line is that this is your special day, so tailor it to what you want! Have fun and try not to stress too much.  Remember, your wedding day is about the marriage itself, not the party. When it is all said and done, it’s just one day of your life. You only get one wedding, so be sure to pick a bridal party of women that unconditionally love and cherish your friendship.

If you’d like to get additional wedding ideas/add to your lovely Pinterest board, check out my Wedding board here.

Do you have any other ideas about how to choose your bridesmaids? Leave me some suggestions in the comments below. Happy Tuesday!

Xoxo,

Chelsea

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