At some point, we all are victims of self-sabotaging our own happiness. Think you are getting in the way of your own success? Read on.

1.) Wishing you had someone else’s body

Sorry to break it to you, but you don’t. You were born with the beautiful body that you have; in all of its imperfections. Your curves, scars, distinct characteristics, and unique body features are what makes you YOU. Appreciate it. Not all people were born healthy like you are.

2.) Staying at a job you hate

With the amount of time that you spend at work in a week, why would you stay in an environment where you are absolutely miserable? Believe that you can find something better, even if the pay is hard to walk away from.

3.)  Making choices based off of what others’ expect of you

This is YOUR life. Make choices for YOU because they make YOU happy.

4.) Wishing you could go back in the past

The past is over with. It ultimately serves us one purpose, and one purpose only: to learn, evolve, and grow from.

5.) Settling for someone who doesn’t see your true beauty

You deserve to be loved exactly the way you are. You should never have to change for anyone. Anyone who fails to realize this just isn’t worth it. You will find better, I promise.

6.) Staying in your comfort zone

How do you know if you like new places, new foods, new people, etc. if you don’t get out there and take the risk? What is holding you back? Feel the fear and do it anyway.

7.) Thinking that the world owes you something

Time to take the princess crown off. The world does not owe you anything; you owe the world. Stop thinking in your entitled mindset. Get out there and make things happen.

8.) Not making time for the people you love

How are others supposed to be a good friend to you if you are not there for them? There is so much more to life than work, school, and the every day stressors of life. No matter how busy life gets, remember that the people who you love are the most important thing. Put them first.

9.) Comparing your life to others’ via social media

People only post the very best of their lives on social media. We all struggle with hardships, comparison, and insecurities. Instead of focusing on things that you don’t have, limit your media usage and remind yourself of everything that you are grateful for.

10.) Breaking your back to please everyone

Trying to please everyone will eventually break you down. It’s okay to do nice things for the other people, but don’t forget to put the most important person first – yourself.

11.) Overthinking simple things

Sometimes, the answer is much more simple than we make it out to be.

12.) Making excuses

Take responsibility, own up, and work hard to overcome. Making excuses and blaming others will never get you anywhere.

13.) Not trusting your instincts

We have instincts for a reason. Whether we are faced to make decisons about a life partner, a place to move, or a new job, your gut instinct will likely be the best choice for you to make. And if that choice ends up badly? We always have the power to change.

14.) Surrounding yourself around toxic people

Choose to be with others who lift you up, not bring you down.

15.) Avoiding change

Similar to being fearful of going out of our comfort zone, being reluctant to change can close a lot of doors and opportunities for us. Open your heart and mind, and take the risk.


Don’t let yourself get in the way of your own happiness, babes. Be aware of your thoughts, feelings and reactions, and then do something to change it. You deserve the world.

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